At first glance, points two and three contradict each other. They state that emotions and conflicts are caused by arguments based on false interests and the clash of basic values. However, it is important to remember that the most acute conflicts, which often lead to violence, arise when one spouse doubts such fundamental marital value such as fidelity. On the other hand, wounded pride can result in a conflict even during inoffensive talk. Moreover, irrationality (false interests) and emotions considerably increase when alcohol abuse or permanent stress are present.

The fourth point emphasises the positive role of functional mutual dependence in marriage. In this case spouses will try to avoid conflict, which can lead to changes in relations or even break-up.

Coser L.A. The Functions of Social Conflict. London, Free Press of Glencoe, 1956